Faith in Parenting

Today was haircut day, and my son’s hairstyle is a little longer than I’d have chosen myself - that is, if I were the one calling the shots on his hairstyle.

Why aren’t I calling the shots?

Well, some would call it a compromise; others might call it the dumbing down of parental expectations. I think of it as “choosing my battles.”

With all the expectations he already has to live up to - things like saying “No” to Teen games like Guitar Hero, even when all his friends are playing it - I think supporting his own freedom of expression in an area as innocuous as a hairstyle is a positive thing.

See, we can maintain our influence as parents even when we make intentional decisions to support our kids’ independence. We need to realize this truth, or we’ll start to panic and declare rule after rule in areas that don’t even matter to us!

What do you think? Where have you made an intentional decision about a “battle” or two, and ended up feeling really good about it?

Remember, too, that there’s a vast difference between choosing - which is work and requires us to think on the issue for a bit - and ignoring an issue altogether.

Lord, give us your wisdom as we consider those areas where we can support our kids’ growing independence, and those areas where we need to exert our authority as moms and lead our children in a different direction. Above all, may your will be done in their lives, and may we be your instrument in guiding them. Amen.

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